What I Learned From Flunking Out of My First College


By Elisha Lotem

When I was 20 I flunked out of my first college, there I said it. When it happened I was really cut up about it. It wasn’t a really good situation as I was really happy at my first college, and had to move back home in order to survive. As we all know that really isn’t a very pleasant option for the average millennial. Yes it was really embarrassing, but looking back 3 years later, I learnt a whole lot about life and the consequences of your decisions. It has really helped me in later years when I have had to make similar choices.


First off, let me go into a bit more detail on why I flunked out of college in the first place. To start off, I wasn’t really doing anything stupid, I wasn’t doing drugs, and wasn’t partying anything beyond what the average college student would party. Instead I was working two full time jobs, and was neglecting my studies. While I have to admit that I learnt a lot at both of those jobs, in hindsight, I lost focus on why I was supposed to be at college at the first place. Young people go to college to learn, I was supposed to be doing that but instead of learning, I decided to earn. That probably wasn’t the best choice. And so it came that after the spring semester came around my grades weren’t exactly good, and I decided it would better for me to not return to college upstate.

Our story picks up when I decided to re-enroll in a local public college near my home. To be honest, I was a bit surprised that I was accepted as my grades weren’t exactly good, but I still got in. This is where we have our first lesson. If you don’t ask, you certainly won’t get. Even though it was pretty nervy of me to apply, I still got in. The next thing we learn from this is that in life there are many times that we will fail. We can’t dwell on our failures for too long, otherwise we will never move on. I know failure is pretty toxic for people our age, but it happens, and there is nothing wrong with it as long as you pick yourself up, and learn from your mistakes. When I started my classes in the fall, I decided to take a risk by not getting a full time job. Yes I wasn’t able to save as much money, but I was still able to pass my classes. I didn’t run the risk of flunking out like I did before. You see I learned from my failure as a student, and I understood the value of time. I also learned that I don’t have enough of it.


Next up, while I might have been better off forgoing college for a bit, I don’t think that, that would have been the optimal decision on my part. You see when you start something it is really better to finish it, if you have the opportunity to do so. Yes, it may not be easy, and it really isn’t pleasant telling people that you failed, but in life you need to face the truth, and be honest with yourself and with others. Life isn’t fair, and it never will be, but you still got to live it to the fullest.

To conclude, in my life, I’ve made many mistakes, with flunking out of college ranking pretty high among them. This experience was not really pleasant, but I learned a lot from it. It has helped to make me into the person I am today.